Recently, I've come across many more triggers that have brought me back to a negative place. I'll be honest, I thought I was completely healed from my marriage. I've been feeling really good and positive... yet I've experienced so many more small triggers lately that just have set me back mentally. Most of them deal … Continue reading Healing.
It's been about quite some time of self work. I've gone from separated in late 2018, to attempting to retry again during the pandemic to separated again in summer 2020 to filing for divorce at the end of 2020 to finally becoming a divorced, single mom and home owner in early 2021. What a whirlwind. … Continue reading Self Work.
I am not sure where I'm going with this post, but here we go. A while ago, I had been dating someone for almost a month and had a bit of a breakdown. He has been so nice and such a great person that I started to look back at my previous marriage. I couldn't … Continue reading Divorced Pt II: Growth.
Here we are again with boundaries. This post is part four to three previous posts I had written on boundaries that were set during my separation and divorce. If you'd like to read the other three check them out here: Boundaries Boundaries Part II Boundaries Part III Now, back to part four. Last night my … Continue reading Boundaries Pt IV.
I didn't think there would be a part three to this post, but here we are. A couple of days before the final divorce hearing, my ex came back to me asking for another chance. If I'm being honest, it would have probably been our firth or sixth "try again" at this point? His answer … Continue reading Boundaries Pt. III
Yesterday I had a phone court hearing to finalize my divorce. I honestly am not sure how I feel, probably because it was on the phone and not in person. A couple of weeks before the hearing I decided to stop also dating. I had been dating for about five months with awful luck. I … Continue reading Boundaries Pt. II
I was feeling used. Like I mention in my last post, my ex and I got very comfortable. Last week, he asked if he could come over to see the kids and talk. I asked, "what did you want to talk about?" He said, "not that you care but..." He had been stressed out with … Continue reading Used.
I've been thinking a lot about boundaries. Even since my cousin passed away in mid December (and then my grandmother in January), I let go of most boundaries with my children's father. I was pretty much a hot mess. I needed all the help I could get and I am very grateful that he was … Continue reading Boundaries.
I'm not going to lie, I've been dragging the past week. Ever since Thanksgiving, my mindset has plummeted. I had this same feeling last year when I had my first "separated" Thanksgiving and Christmas from my children's father.While it makes me happy to see others happy, it the pit of my stomach I feel angry. … Continue reading Celebrating Holidays Separately.
There are some things people don't tell you when you go through a separation/ divorce. While these may be obvious things, they are things you simply don't think about until you are in the moments. Sleepless Nights/ Broken Sleep. There are nights where I have broken sleep or sleep maybe four hours total. My son … Continue reading The Things No On Tells You.