Recently, I've come across many more triggers that have brought me back to a negative place. I'll be honest, I thought I was completely healed from my marriage. I've been feeling really good and positive... yet I've experienced so many more small triggers lately that just have set me back mentally. Most of them deal … Continue reading Healing.
It's been about quite some time of self work. I've gone from separated in late 2018, to attempting to retry again during the pandemic to separated again in summer 2020 to filing for divorce at the end of 2020 to finally becoming a divorced, single mom and home owner in early 2021. What a whirlwind. … Continue reading Self Work.
We can't chose what triggers us, only how we respond to it. That's the thing about trauma (no matter how severe). There are always things that are going to trigger you - it can literally be the slightest thing. Most days, I can feel triggered and know that I am about to go downhill and … Continue reading Trigger.
I am not sure where I'm going with this post, but here we go. A while ago, I had been dating someone for almost a month and had a bit of a breakdown. He has been so nice and such a great person that I started to look back at my previous marriage. I couldn't … Continue reading Divorced Pt II: Growth.
A few weeks ago I mentioned in a post that I got rid of my queen bed. While it did remind me of my ex-husband, it just didn't fit me. When I was younger and we moved into my "childhood" home, my mom bought me a day bed. I think I was used to that … Continue reading Redefining My Minimalist Home.
Here we are again with boundaries. This post is part four to three previous posts I had written on boundaries that were set during my separation and divorce. If you'd like to read the other three check them out here: Boundaries Boundaries Part II Boundaries Part III Now, back to part four. Last night my … Continue reading Boundaries Pt IV.
As of March 2nd, I was officially divorced. We had the final divorce hearing on February 16th, everything went well. We just had to wait for the judge to sign off. Technically we've been unofficially divorced since that day, but I was waiting to have the decree in hand that made it "official." When I … Continue reading Divorced.
I didn't think there would be a part three to this post, but here we are. A couple of days before the final divorce hearing, my ex came back to me asking for another chance. If I'm being honest, it would have probably been our firth or sixth "try again" at this point? His answer … Continue reading Boundaries Pt. III
Yesterday I had a phone court hearing to finalize my divorce. I honestly am not sure how I feel, probably because it was on the phone and not in person. A couple of weeks before the hearing I decided to stop also dating. I had been dating for about five months with awful luck. I … Continue reading Boundaries Pt. II
I was feeling used. Like I mention in my last post, my ex and I got very comfortable. Last week, he asked if he could come over to see the kids and talk. I asked, "what did you want to talk about?" He said, "not that you care but..." He had been stressed out with … Continue reading Used.